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Female uality and what women want.
                                       
What Women WantWomen's views on uality as a spiritual ritual(Part 1)
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I remember watching an interview on TV once and a guy was asked when he knew his marriage was in trouble. He answered that he was making love to his wife and caught up in a great moment of passion when he heard his wife whisper, “Darling, the ceiling needs painting”.I guess men think about other things during ; men may become bored with , but even then I don’t think men ever become as indifferent or as detached as many women appear to do.Men seem to value more than women do: actually, there appear to be a lot of differences between the genders when it comes to attitudes about .Men pursue and women pursue love and romance. Men will often use love to get and many women will use to get love. It usually works out pretty well in the end, as most people realize that they want and need both.We seem to spend the first half of our lives learning things and then the second half trying to unlearn things. It really does take a keen sense of observation and a lot of self-analysis to unravel belief systems to find our own truths. It also takes a lot of courage and determination to go against standard beliefs and live your life according to your own wisdom; there are so many areas of our lives in which we are wearing masks and being phoney. We know on a logical level that things don’t make sense but we are so afraid of ‘Not being Normal’ that we would rather live with lies and suppress our true nature than appear to be different. Somehow, lies and stupidity become acceptable and things that are natural and healthy become unacceptable, trivialised, embarrassing or taboo.Intellectually, we may all agree that this is particularly so in relation to and body image. Men are generally more comfortable with their desires, performance and bodily functions, whereas women appear to be continually struggling with two entirely opposite worlds when it comes to . The ual revolution of the sixties presented us with new freedoms and greater education allowing us to fully embrace the idea that it was O.K. to enjoy . We readily accepted that was normal and healthy. We were open to experimentation and even got to the point of pursuing , enjoying and making ual demands.We do underestimate the power of conditioning and just how deeply our belief systems are instilled. On one level, we embraced ual freedom, but we were somehow unable to completely let go of our previous Victorian attitudes. Even today, we operate on levels of guilt, shame, self-consciousness and ual suppression. We still carry within us our ‘Good girls don’t’ and ‘Bad girls do’ attitudes. We still think in terms of being used, giving in, playing hard to get, letting him have his way and of course, the ever popular question, “Will he respect me in the morning?”We may have a very good understanding of anatomy and know the proper names of our private bits, as well as a good basic knowledge of how it all works. We accept our animal instincts and primal desires and behaviours. But, then again on a deeper level, there is this distorted and illogical belief that we should smell like perfume and our genitals should look like orchids. We worry that we may have too much hair; that we are too fat, too flabby or too old. We are self-conscious about our uality and shy about expressing our needs.It really wasn’t all that long ago that it was assumed that women didn’t enjoy and they only did it because it was their duty if they were married. They had to be married, as that was socially and financially imperative. The ual revolution of the sixties and seventies turned all of this around. had been a taboo subject up until this point, but with the availability and acceptance of the contraceptive pill woman discovered a freedom like never before. Women began to explore their own uality. Magazines came with sealed sections and within those pages articles were about clitoris’s, g-spots, erogenous zones and masturbation. Woman began looking at pictures of naked men as well as close-up shots of female genitals. The concepts of multiple partners, orgies, and homouality were explored.The world had changed and life was never going to be the same again. Fear of pregnancy was probably the main reason women avoided , but all that changed with the pill. From all of this, came very significant changes for women right across the board. Women demanded, and ultimately received, equal opportunities in most aspects of their lives.These days, we all have a fair understanding of how our body’s work and we have the freedom to explore our uality. Woman can be as ually liberated and at ease with themselves as the men are. So why aren’t we?Why are women so hung up about their bodies: self-conscious, ashamed, critical, ignorant and insecure.Why are we still thinking that men are using us or that we are giving up something.Could it be that we still think nice girls don’t and that ‘Doing it’ will cost us his respect.Are our genitals really ‘Yucky’ and do we ever really look at them.Is power and are we still bartering.Why do we still believe we are unattractive if we are not perfect, and why do we believe that only perfect bodies deserve .Will we ‘Die from embarrassment’ if caught masturbating – Do we masturbate.I’m not suggesting that men have all the answers either; they certainly need to address a few issues themselves. But, I am suggesting that men are generally much more comfortable with their uality and their bodies than we are.Men establish a very healthy relationship with their penises very early in life. Perhaps it is because their equipment is external and easily accessible. Most men consider their penises to be their favourite body part, some even go so far as to give it a name. Most probably talk to it like it is a good mate and certainly most men treat it with the utmost respect and consideration. From a very young age boys realize that touching it feels good and most will touch it often throughout the day.Men are also ually aroused very easily, and will experience ‘a little flutter’ by something as simple as seeing an attractive woman. Men usually wake up each morning with ‘a hard-on’ and will automatically give it at least a little fond stoking before they start their day.Women, on the other hand, have everything hidden away and very private. Women rarely look at themselves ‘down there’ and it is quite common for a partner or Gynaecologist to know more about the look of her ‘privates’ than the woman herself. Women are also more likely to need emotional, psychological or physical stimulation before becoming aroused.Parents also tend to educate their children quite differently when it comes to . Boys get more of a ‘How to do it’ talk, whereas the women are constantly reminded and warned about the perils of unwanted pregnancy. Fair enough, as it is usually the female who gets left holding the baby. Females are also warned about men only wanting one thing and the risks of gaining a bad reputation. Religious beliefs may also come into consideration and the very strong suggestion that outside of marriage is sinful. Promiscuous girls get labelled as sluts and no decent men would ever want them. Promiscuous males are labelled as studs, and in some cases, become more admired.It’s no wonder that women are accused of this yes-no-yes-no attitude to . We are conditioned to treat with caution and to be highly discerning or suspicious of ual advances, but, at the same time, we are also conditioned into using our uality to attract a mate.The thing that men know, and we still haven’t yet fully grasped, is that is a necessary, natural and healthy activity. Men also know that they can get it and enjoy it regardless of their shape. Men rarely feel shame or embarrassment about wanting it or actively pursuing it. They don’t feel used or disrespected or cheap after . I’ve never met a man yet who thought I owed him something because he had given himself to me.Penises are all shapes and sizes. If we really want to analyse it then I’d probably have to say they are O.K. but not really stunningly beautiful. In fact, the hairy balls, veins along the shaft and the little helmet at the top are really no more or no less beautiful than female genitals. In fact, if you really get down to it you, may notice there is great similarity in design between the two. The vagina is really like an inverted penis. The labia is the equivalent of the balls and the clitoris is really just a tiny little baby penis. The aesthetics aren’t important at all. Genitals are amazingly fantastic pieces of engineering. Their purpose and function is comparable to nothing.Genitals have many sizes, shapes and colours, yet we still get caught up in thinking that they must be ‘Movie Star perfect’, pretty in pink and dainty. This is yet another example of accepting propaganda and denying reality. Women’s genitals can range from pink, red, maroon, purple to black in colouring, all being perfectly normal. Minor Labia (inner lips) can be short, long, fleshy or taunt. Pubic hair may be soft or coarse and wiry, and of course some women have a lot of hair and some do not. Nipples also come in pink and brown hues, different sizes, and large or small areolae. We seem to have no trouble accepting that penises are different sizes both in length and thickness, some are circumcised and some are not, and balls also come in a variety of shapes and sizes.Some women are self-conscious that everything is right next to the anus. Well, think about it – where exactly do you want it. Nice on your forehead - but a bit distracting, on your elbow would be a bit of a problem in a crowd don’t you think. Your hip may be O.K. but very limiting if you like a variety of positions, not to mention that you would throw your spine out of alignment. Really, think about it – the position is perfect!Another concern is fluid; some women worry that they get too wet and others worry that they are not wet enough. This fluid is soft, smooth and sensual to the touch. If this was a Chemist made product, it would be highly sought after and extraordinarily expensive. Men love the touch of a woman’s wetness, as it says, “Yes, I want you”. Men need indications and responses to let them know that they are doing well. Men love to know you are horny and nothing says it better than sending down your juices. A smart, or at least a considerate lover, will also be aware that if you are not wet enough, he needs to spend a bit more time on the foreplay. So, don’t get anxious about not being wet enough, just thank your body for letting him know he needs to back up, slow down and pay attention. Wetness of course, also protects the vagina as well as providing the slidiness. Slidiness may not be the correct term, but, I’m sure you now what I mean and understand the importance of it. If dryness is a health related problem, there are excellent lubricants available and quite a lot of herbs that can help in many cases.Probably the most self-consciousness is about smell. Yes, we have all heard the fish jokes. Most women will at some time notice a stronger smell than usual and feel concerned. If you feel you may have a problem, then see a doctor as you may have an infection or an STD. If you are healthy and do not have a medical problem, then the most probable cause is hygiene. Vaginal fluid is healthy, necessary and normal, and it does not usually have a strong odour. It has such an ever so slight and subtle smell, that it is hardly noticeable and usually quite pleasant, much like sweat has a nice subtle, salty smell, but if left unchecked it becomes a strong and unpleasant odour. A considerate lover will always make sure she is fresh and clean before engaging in . Some women are so self-conscious about their odour that they become fanatically clean and go so far as to use perfumed products. This is a bad idea, as your vaginal fluids contain pheromones which act as aphrodisiacs. That smell that you are all precious about is actually turning on your lover. Perhaps, you would do better to toss out your perfume and dab a little vaginal fluid behind your ears as well.Too fat, too thin, big tits, little tits and saggy bits.When are women going to get over all of this. Do something about it if it really is causing you anguish. Ideally, do something with your attitude rather than your body parts. Men may have hairy arses, beer bellies or weak calf muscles, but they don’t attack their own uality over it, do they. Being y and enjoying has nothing to do with the size or shape of your body parts. If men have one complaint, it is this: they are sick of women making reference to body defects. They just don’t care. If you think your bum is too big then it probably is, but men don’t care. They are very interested in ejaculating into your vagina; they are not interested in skin elasticity or fat cells. Save it for your girlfriends, therapist or cosmetic surgeon.We are self-conscious about a lot of things and most of it is a bit neurotic. If you really care for your lover, or more so if you are in love with your lover, then it is only human to want to know that you are ually exciting, pleasurable and fulfilling., as an expression of love, can be, and should be, ‘A Sacred Ritual’. Society may have reduced it to a stress management technique, a sport or entertainment. Some people will compare it to a basic need as simple as having a meal. I have heard quoted “Why buy a book when you can join a library” as a justification for screwing around. It’s easy to trivialize and devalue things, it’s easy to become cynical and detach ourselves from emotional issues, but in the end it becomes very cold and empty and within us all is the knowledge and longing that we do need to be loved. We need to love, we need to be loved, and we need to express love. The expression of love requires an intellectual, emotional and physical connection. This is where empathy comes into it; we need to know that deep within us and through all of our senses that we are being honoured. Love requires vulnerability. To truly give our innermost private self we need to feel safe, respected and to some degree, a little worshipped.Of course, can be casual, playful, debauched or just lazy, as well as having many other dimensions. Any or all of these aspects can play in and out of a healthy relationship and all are quite acceptable. Most long-term relationships include ‘quickie ’ or ‘just getting your rocks off’ . One night stands or casual encounters can also range from spectacular and exciting to indifferent servicing. However, one night stands and quickie are separate issues and I am really addressing women’s uality, attitudes and experiences. While acknowledging that we are all different and have different desires and needs, and that has a huge range of complexities, I am mainly relating to as a loving expression and basic human need.Techniques can be learned, practised and perfected. Everyone has a responsibility to themselves and their lovers to educate themselves. No matter how athletic or skillful you are, it will mean very little if you do not connect empathetically with your partner, no-one wants to feel like they are a slab of meat being masturbated into. Empathy is about tuning into your partner, feeling, responding, sensing and caring. Having a big dick, a bag of tricks and plenty of stamina are all advantages, but if a woman feels that she is nothing more than a vessel to you, then she won’t be interested for very long.We pay a lot of attention to the importance of genital stimulation and accept that female orgasm is all about the clitoris. Too often, foreplay begins and ends with the genitals. Too often, begins and ends with the genitals. Although pleasure, satisfaction and orgasm can be achieved, it can and will be very unfulfilling and heartless in a long-term relationship. ual technique and stamina are important, but they do not make a good lover and they are not the key ingredients of great . For many men, education comes through , masturbation or story telling with other men. Too often, men focus on the physical aspects of and sometimes act like is a race to the finish line.Click the next button to go to part 2 and 3.Seduction foreplay and ecstasy
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